Teacher friends, I know that many of you are like me with a serious appetite for control. Organizing, planing, and assessing variables are some of the things that make us good teachers. They are also some of the exact things we need to let go of when preparing for a maternity, paternity, or family leave sub. I'm currently in the process of preparing to take maternity leave for my second baby. It is such a personal decision and a personal process that I can't emphasize enough how different this experience can be for everyone. No parent should feel compelled to fit neatly into the model that worked for their co-workers, friends, or even themselves with a previous child. As a society and as a profession, we should reach out in support for people needing to take family leave no matter if they are: mothers or fathers, biological or adoptive parents, caring for a baby or a relative of another age or in any other circumstance. That being said, I would like to go through a few things that I think are good to think about when preparing for family leave.